why you feel like you haven't been getting better

I think most of us have had this feeling. You feel you're never going to get better, and always will have it exactly as you have it right now. I myself have several times known this feeling. It feels like you're back to square one, and whatever you do or don't do, you feel like you always end up at your starting point. I think of this as one of Mr.anxiety`s faces. He will separate you from the outside world, and you begin to believe that no one really understands you. Nobody have what you have, and most of all, you will never get better. But the truth is that the vast majority will at one time in their life know those feelings and have those thoughts. It is not unusual, and you're going to get better, you actually already have!

I am of the understanding that nothing you experience is random. There are laws of the universe, like the law of attraction, as you probably are aware of. You can not experience anything without being a match to it. We all have one or more themes in our lives. The way I look at it is that when we are young, we experience something that for us at the time is so traumatic that we are unable to move on from this point. If we do not get help, understanding or safety from our surroundings this trauma will not disappear. In other words, until we heal this aspect of us, we'll be a match to situations that continue to take us back to the original trauma. This is obviously very superficially explained. If we stop running from the storm, but rather accepts it and uses the storm to go inward instead, you'll more quickly get you where you want.

A good illustration of how this works is to picture energy as a spiral.

If we look at a spiral and imagine that your themes in life runs like a red thread from the middle, then this creates a picture of  how you will run into the same problem over and over. It's not that you are not getting better or are never going to get better. It`s just simply that there are still aspects of the problems you have not healed.

Finally, I think it also is helpful to have in mind what is the difference between a relapse and to simply just take a step backward. The automatic thoughts I think many of us have when encountering a problem or situation again, or you get a panic attack again after some time away from that feeling, is that now I have a relapse, whereas what you really are having is just a small step  backward. The difference is that if you had a relapse, you would have gone right back to square one. What you forget to think about is that you, since the first time you experienced panic attacks, depression or whatever else, has learned techniques that have helped you to go from there to where you are today. Therefore, it is impossible for you to get a relapse.