onsdag 26. oktober 2016

8 horrible situations for introverts

1. You have planned an evening alone, and suddenly you`re getting  an unannounced visit

2. The doorbell rings, but you are not expecting anyone..

3. At school your teacher says: Lets go in groups of four!

4. You invited some friends, and they say: Is it ok if I invite some more people?

5. You`re watching a movie or something on TV, and then you phone rings..

6. You meet someone you kind of know, but not really, and have to smalltalk..

7. You`re at a family party, and there are no quiet corners to discover!

8. You`re on your way to the mailbox, you see your neighbour, and its too late to turn around.

onsdag 19. oktober 2016

Reactivity

This week's theme is reactivity, which in short means that we are in a state where we will only act on the basis of our feelings, and not out of the situation we are in. We only react on the acute and automatic trigger. Before we go any further on this, we must look to our childhood.


When we are children, we are at the mercy of our surroundings. Whether you had caregivers who
drank, struggled with mental illness, had narcissistic tendencies or otherwise was emotionally unavailable to you, whether it was only once or every single time, this will be reflected in your programming. With programming, I mean all those things you were told or learned, either verbally or by observing the environment around you, this will have shaped you  to who you are today with your value system, thoughts and feelings. Whatever you have experienced, not experienced or should have experienced, you have today a number of things that trigger you. Perhaps you can often be extremely angry, have panic attacks or other acute reactions to anything going on around you. These triggers are good indications that there was something in what you just experienced that it is worth taking a closer look at.


When we talk about reactivity, we'll talk about those cases where we instinctively react to what you are experiencing, without taking the experience through the body or mind first. This is comparable to what happens when you put your hand on a hot plate, there is a frequent reflex that makes you quickly pull your hand back without having to think about it first. In this case with the hot plate, this type of reflex is useful, if not vital. This is however not the case when we are talking about reactivity in relation to emotions. Very often we can see this when we react very strongly to a situation that basically is small or trifling. The reason why you reacted to this situation is NEVER that you are being dramatic, or "just want attention" as many like to think. But there was something in this situation that triggered a memory you have. Often it could be a smell or the tone of someone's voice. Maybe it was someone who spoke with a loud and brusque voice that took you unconsciously directly back to childhood, where you in the now acutely react and fire off a series of violent emotions.


When you experience this, it is a unique way for you to stop and find out what really was triggering you and why. Admittedly, it is quite sure that this will be impossible for you to do in the moment, but that in retrospect, when you come to yourself again, can take a closer look at. What happened? What do you think you reacted to? What does the situation reminds you of? What in this situation requires you to take a deeper dive into your being?


Your emotions are never wrong, and can never be exaggerated. Therefore, it is important to address this, not because you reacted to something that you should stop responding to, but because your emotions is trying to tell you that there was something in this situation that you reacted to. Take it seriously and try to be present in the violent emotions instead of either feeling shame or blame others.

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torsdag 6. oktober 2016

About ghosts and the afterlife

I would like to share my perspectives about  "ghosts" and the afterlife. I often hear about perspectives on this topic that I do not completely agree with, and I feel like many of them often is ruled by fear. One of these fear-based perspectives is that some souls "gets stuck" and that they therefore do not come further. I hear this especially in relation to people who have taken their own lives. In my perspective, and in my meeting with the other side, this is not the case.

I do not think suicide in cosmic perspective is wrong and something that should be shamed.
Nor do I think that the heavenly punishment for this is being caught between two worlds, or going to "hell". And having said that, I've never come close to any kind of hell. The closest thing would be the lower dimensions. The dimension we live in, 3rd Dimension, is the only dimension (that I know of) where someone can physically grab you and keep you somewhere you do not want to be. From 4th Dimension and above, you do not have this physical condition. This means that no one can force you to reside in a place you do not want. Therefore, one can say that life here on earth is the closest to hell you will find. There are beings who do not always carry with them positivity. Our universe is governed by the law of attraction. This means you can not be around something you are not match for! So if you are not match to this you will never experience it. And most of us are not, so panic is unnecessary!

Back to the main topic, ghosts and the afterlife. As I mentioned, I do not think, nor have I ever heard about this from my guides or others I have communicated with, that someone can be trapped between life and death. When you encounter a ghost, or have visits from a deceased love one, it does not mean that they have not reached their destination. Certainly, some take longer than others to come "home". But this does not in any way mean that someone is punished or held back. What may happen is that if you die suddenly many may experience that there are different things they're going through, ranging from the learning to understand that they are now dead, or as an adjustment to what they have become. If you are interested in this, I recommend that you read about research on near-death experiences, such as PMH Atwater or others.

Another element I think it is important to address in this context is thought-forms. Often when we find what we call ghosts in the house, this is a thought-form. A thought-form, or an imprint, is an
energy that is left after a person. Often we see this in places where a person has lived for many years. This does not mean that it is the person, or soul, that recur and therefore has not gone further. I think it's important to point out because I feel that many people find it difficult because one can easily imagine that their deceased is stuck. These thought forms are often compounded by fear. Let's take an example. You live in a house where you have repeatedly experienced that doors slam or you hear different sounds. Furthermore you experience over time that these sounds are louder, and you experience the situation as more intense. It is often the case when over time you have given your energy in the form of fear to this thought-form, which means that you keep it in your life.