Introduction to manifestation

When we talk about manifesting, we refer to the law of attraction, and how you create your own reality. This is a topic many people are interested in, and in my experience is a theme that is easy to misunderstand. Before we start to talk about today's theme, I will first briefly talk about the journey we all take that plays a huge part in the manifestation process.

When we wake up and begin to see that there is something more than what we can see and touch, this is called the first wave of spirituality. We are beginning to see that we create our own reality. This means that you begin to understand that you can work your way through whatever you are struggling with, and you can live a good life after, what perhaps have been many years, without getting the help you needed. You begin to read books by people like Sylvia Browne and John Edward, and you start to get drawn towards people who see what you see. This gives you an introduction of a new world you never knew existed, and that you can not get enough of. Because you start to see that you create your own reality, you begin to focus on being positive, and to spread your positive word to everyone you meet.

But then suddenly you get to a point where your positivity no longer works. You work hard to tell yourself and others that all you have to do is to stay positive. But suddenly you realise that no matter how hard you try, you still struggle. What really happens when you are so keen to be positive on the outside, while what is happening within is not matching up, is that you begin to suppress the negative thoughts you have. A common thought we tell ourselves is "I don't have a reason to feel sad." But what is happening in your subconscious mind is that you repress those aspects of you that are sad, and that are feeling like crap. At this point we learn the healing aspects of ourselves, and the importance of our “darker” side. When we arrive here, the second wave hits you.

The second wave, or level, of spirituality comes when you notice that positivity lifestyle does not do you any good. It does not work to manifest amazing things when the underlying parts of you struggle. Therefore, it is common at this time that we begin to do the heavy work, such as inner child work, or shadow work. We begin to see that we can work with the painful parts of ourselves, the parts we never before dared to approach. Whether you think these parts of you were shameful or made you a bad person. We suddenly notice the value in these dark valleys and begins the long road to healing our emotions and ours scars.

I hear many people say that they can not attract what they want, and that this is not working for them. But the fact is that you every second of the day attracts what you are a match to. The reason you do not achieve what you want to manifest is not because it is nonsense and does not exist, or that you are the black sheep that this is not working for. It is because your unconscious self and your feelings does not match what you are pretending to be.  It is not thoughts that create manifestations, emotions do. And feelings can not be manipulated into positivity, they are what they are.

why you feel like you haven't been getting better

I think most of us have had this feeling. You feel you're never going to get better, and always will have it exactly as you have it right now. I myself have several times known this feeling. It feels like you're back to square one, and whatever you do or don't do, you feel like you always end up at your starting point. I think of this as one of Mr.anxiety`s faces. He will separate you from the outside world, and you begin to believe that no one really understands you. Nobody have what you have, and most of all, you will never get better. But the truth is that the vast majority will at one time in their life know those feelings and have those thoughts. It is not unusual, and you're going to get better, you actually already have!

I am of the understanding that nothing you experience is random. There are laws of the universe, like the law of attraction, as you probably are aware of. You can not experience anything without being a match to it. We all have one or more themes in our lives. The way I look at it is that when we are young, we experience something that for us at the time is so traumatic that we are unable to move on from this point. If we do not get help, understanding or safety from our surroundings this trauma will not disappear. In other words, until we heal this aspect of us, we'll be a match to situations that continue to take us back to the original trauma. This is obviously very superficially explained. If we stop running from the storm, but rather accepts it and uses the storm to go inward instead, you'll more quickly get you where you want.

A good illustration of how this works is to picture energy as a spiral.

If we look at a spiral and imagine that your themes in life runs like a red thread from the middle, then this creates a picture of  how you will run into the same problem over and over. It's not that you are not getting better or are never going to get better. It`s just simply that there are still aspects of the problems you have not healed.

Finally, I think it also is helpful to have in mind what is the difference between a relapse and to simply just take a step backward. The automatic thoughts I think many of us have when encountering a problem or situation again, or you get a panic attack again after some time away from that feeling, is that now I have a relapse, whereas what you really are having is just a small step  backward. The difference is that if you had a relapse, you would have gone right back to square one. What you forget to think about is that you, since the first time you experienced panic attacks, depression or whatever else, has learned techniques that have helped you to go from there to where you are today. Therefore, it is impossible for you to get a relapse.

6 reasons why you always feel tired.

Do you constantly feel tired and drained of energy? The reasons for this may be many and complex, but you are far from alone in feeling this. The world can be experienced as very challenging for those of us who are sensitive and especially if you might not even really know that you are. It was certainly that way for me. I felt tired of what I perceived as nothing, and no matter how much I rested, I still felt out of it. Here are some of the reasons why you may feel the same way.

1. You are sensitive, this means that you attract others' feelings and energies. When you constantly feel everyone and everything, you will after some time feel exhausted!

2. You never say no. You walk continually in spite of yourself. Maybe you're afraid to miss out, or are afraid of what those around you will think if you say no. Regardless of the cause, it makes you exhausted!

3. You do not take enough time to yourself. We have the belief that it is selfish to take time to ourselves. For you to work in the best possible way, it is extremely important that you take time for yourself and your needs.

4. Chaotic thoughts. You are in your head all the time. You make everything out to be a crisis, and you can`t seem to be able to stop. When you are in this spiral, you are burning all your energy to keep you in your head. Not only do you do everything that is required of you at any time. You also have a full-time job with everything that goes on inside your mind.

5. I should .. You are concerned about everything you should. There is nothing you should! The only thing this does for you is to wear you out.

6. Turbulent world. There is much going on in the world. For me, this showes up as sudden emotions like feeling angry, sad or frustrated without not quite knowing why. The reason for this is that there are powerful energies at work, and if you are sensitive to these, chances are that you pick up this. It is especially important to take into account all of the above to help yourself to get balanced in order to not feel drained and exhausted by all this!

If you want counceling on how to get more energy into your life, you can book a session with me at www.kristinectora.com  or try my Free 10 day email course to feel better 

Do you experience ASMR?

Did you enjoy it when someone combed or played with your hair when you were young, or maybe you still do? Or was it perhaps a teacher who spoke in a way that made you get a good and relaxing feeling? Or maybe you had some friends who were playing with your toys in a specific way and made it so you could sit to observe them for hours and hours? If this applies to you, then there is a great chance that you experienced ASMR, which is short for Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response.

What is ASMR?

Scientific evidence of exactly what happens in the body when someone

is experiencing ASMR is yet to be conclusive. A big reason for this is that there is still a relatively new phenomenon that is under constant research and testing. What scientists so far may agree to, is that it is amazing how many people who are, independently, talking about this phenomenon in detail similar to each other.

What we "know" about asmr is that it creates a tingeling sensation that starts at the top of your head and follow your spine down and can also go through the arms and legs. There is a feeling of goosebumps, but in a very pleasant way leading to a relaxed and sleepy feeling. The feeling is described by many as a "brain orgasm". Many people use this type of videos for insomnia, meditation or during stressful periods to relax.

Some argue that this is something everyone can experience, and that it's all about finding the right trigger, while others believe that this is something you either have or you do not have. Some also say that ASMR can be linked up to spirituality, in the same way as meditation is linked to spirituality.

There are a range of triggers than can get you this feeling, here are some of them:

• Whispering.
• Soft speaking.
• Accents.
• Nail tapping.
• The sound of wooden blocks or glass together.
• Seeing someone perform an action, such as washing their car or drawing/painting.

Personally, I have experienced ASMR ever since I was quite young, but it was not until a few years ago I came across a youtube video by chance, and realize that this is an actual phenomenon many people experience. For me, these videos were a great help when I was in a period where I was not able to relax, no matter what I did. I could not meditate, whether in silence or using a guided meditation because I had a restlessness in my body that always took over.

If this is a phenomenon you recognize, or want to find out more on, I will recommend some of my favorites that make this type of videos on youtube:

• RelaxingASMR
• Gentlewhispering
• TheWaterWhispers
• WhispersRed

Detachment

Never before has the gap between what's called the “supernatural” and the “natural” been so short. I feel like it is time to close that gap.

Spirituality is referred to as super-natural, like it's something other than natural. It`s something scary that only a handful of people knows. It's a witchcraft, it's ghosts and spells. It's occult, and you're a bit crazy for even believing in that sort of things! If you are a match to read this, chances are big that you are with me and see the silliness in that. For me spirituality is nothing but a natural state. It's not rules, no set paradigms. It's about you and the force that live in you. It's about nature and about finding one's true self. It`s basically what everyone seeks, so why should we pretend like we don't?

To be honest, I starts to tire out to have to explain this over and over to people who just don't see it. To people who let their fears lead them. I believe that's all it is, it's not about some people being too stupid to figure it all out, and that I am this chosen one with all the answers. It's fear, we all have it, and many of us have really felt how fear can manifest in our lives! I believe we have to start listening to the core of us that is pure love, and live from that.

For how long do we continue doing things we hate, and that hurts us on a daily basis, before we stop and see the terrible traps we lay down for ourselves? Most people are in a constant state of hurt. We feel like crap, and like there is no end to it. But what if you always were more than good enough all along? What if all the wisdom that lives within you is exactly what the world lacks? What you know is the last piece of the puzzle for many people!

We have to ask ourselves, what is the real reason behind what I do to myself? What is the real reason behind my anxiety?

The way I see it, is that the answer is never because “that's just the way it is”, or that you for whatever reason deserve to not be happy. It's about a fear you have. What are you protecting yourself against?

For me personally, one of the biggest fear is to be visible and let people see my true self. It's terrifying to me that you read this and form thoughts about me, which in my head never are good thoughts! Yesterday I got a mail from someone who read my free e-book who had problems with my english. The person said that my english was not good and would be easy for me to correct,  “although perhaps you want to leave them in to increase your authenticity of being Norwegian and an ingenue rather than appearing completely professional.” To be honest, I cried my eyes out that night because the feeling that someone I don't know have thoughts about me felt like an attack, and my worst fears came to life. But after getting support from some fellow entrepreneurs, I started to feel much better. The truth is that I have never written anything because I want you to see my brilliant english, I actually couldn't care less, because I believe that you who read this and get something out if it will not care that my english is what it is. You are in my corner and get what I (and maybe in a terrible way) am trying to say. And that means so much more to me than someone who can't see past my spelling mistakes.

It's time to detach from what the world have put on you to believe about yourself, and be who you are and always supposed to be!

My anxiety journey - From panic to clarity

The second I woke up I felt it. The feeling of the walls crushing in on me. I`m dizzy, my heart is racing, and I can`t formulate a single thought. All I sense is the terrifying feeling of panic and anxiety. I`m closing my eyes, frantically looking for calming thoughts. I know I had some good techniques for this specific occasion, because I have used years practising it. But I can't seem to remember a single thing. It`s all panic,no reason, no logic.

Suddenly there is a helping thought coming through. BREATH! I reassure myself that the only reason why I`m dizzy is because I`m afraid, which causes my breathing to change, which then leads to the feeling of being dizzy and short-breathed. Since I didn't listen the first time, I try to say it once more with a more strict and reassuring voice.

I`m starting with the best technique I know, breathing in through my nose while I count to 4, and out through my mouth. While doing this I keep explaining to myself why I do this. Why it's through my nose and out my mouth, and why I count to 4. I work hard to think logical. I start to breath. In 1-2-3-4 and out 1-2-3-4, in 1-2-3-4 an out 1-2….it's not working. Why doesn't it work? Does this mean that something really is wrong with me this time? Oh my God, there IS something wrong with me! So it`s here i'm going to die..29 and dead from a heart attack. My head fills up with million dark thoughts. I can feel my energy spiraling down, and I suddenly can't remember me feeling anything other than the way I feel now. The thoughts are rushing, my clients will think I `m a fraud, I can't even teach myself how to breath, that's how a terrible coach I am. And i'm fat and ugly, I don't know why, but this for sure has something to do with this!

And then, suddenly a clear thought pierced through my panic. Panic is emotion, and logic don't work on emotion! Suddenly I remembered a deal I made with myself. No more repressing emotion! I have to feel ,and completely be there. So instead of fighting and trying to do all my logical techniques, I began to feel. I close my eyes and I felt into my energy and into my emotions. Without reasoning, and without trying to change my feelings. I just let the feelings come. I felt how my head was full of dark thoughts, and how my head felt full and tight. I felt how it was almost like my body was crushed, like I was lying in a tiny coffin. I completely let myself go and went inside to the scared inner child. And then as magic, my anxiety went away and my body was left with a heavy, calm feeling which made me fall asleep.

The best thing you can do is to turn your face toward the storm and let the storm run you over. This is easy to say, but If you have ever been where I was tonight, you know it is the hardest thing you will ever do!

5 myths about introverts

Here are 5 myths about introverts that I think is interesting!

1

Introverts don't like to talk

This is not right. To be introvert in it self has nothing to do with enjoying to talk or not. But what might be right however, is that introverts don't like shallow talk. Small talk where the point of the conversation is to talk about the weather feels meaningless and uncomfortable. Why can't we talk about what really matters?

2

Introvert and shy is the same thing

No! To be shy and to be introvert is two different types of personality characteristics. To be an introvert person is defined by someone who gets their energy from within and by doing activities alone, such as reading, writing and thinking. To be a shy person is defined by how you deal with unfamiliar and new situations and people. If you are shy, you have a hard time meeting new people and situations. So, you can be shy, you can be an introvert, or you can be a shy introvert. But one has nothing to do with the other.

3

Introverts can fix themselves and become extroverts

Again, Introverts and extroverts are two personality characteristics. One is not better than the other, it's simply just a part of two different personality structures! Introversion is in no way something that should be fixed! It`s not a disease, and it has nothing to do with you being broken!

4

Introverts are not social, and don't like to be with other people.

Introverts can be social, just like extroverts can. The difference though, is that as an introvert you have a need for deeper conversations and quiet time. You get more easily overwhelmed by sounds and surroundings which might lead to you leaving earlier. But that has nothing to do with you liking to be social or not!

5

Introverts are more negative and lazy

I think the reason for this myth is that introverts tend to need their space and to do quiet activities such as reading and thinking. And like I mentioned in the myth number 4, introverts tend to leave the party first, if we want to show up at all! For some people this might translate to being negative and lazy, but it's not true!